![]() This state of things makes him feel sad, enraged at his helplessness in the face of his disorder, and at the discrepancy between his delusions of grandeur and reality (the Grandiosity Gap). His permanent existence in fantasyland - intended to shield him from his self-destructive urges - paradoxically only enhances them. The narcissist is ruefully aware of this substitutive nature, of his inability to have a go at "the real thing". It displaces the emotional rewards of intimacy in mature relationships. Narcissistic Supply substitutes for having a real vocation or avocation and actual achievements. If not real distinction - then concocted and forced "uniqueness". If not real achievements - then contrived or imagined ones. There, he seeks admiration, adoration, approval, applause, or, as a minimum: attention. The narcissist strives to maximise the amount of Narcissistic Supply that he derives from people within the PNS. It has clear geographical and physical boundaries: a home, a neighbourhood, a city, a country. ![]() This is an imaginary environment, a comfort zone, invented by the narcissist. The processes of obtaining, preserving, accumulating and recalling Narcissistic Supply take place in the Pathological Narcissistic Space (PNS). ![]() Thus, existential boredom, self-directed aggression (depression), and the compulsive quest for excitement and titillating drama lead to the relentless pursuit of Narcissistic Supply (NS). I, myself, am dramatic (therefore I exist)." The narcissist - always a pathological liar and the chief victim of his own stratagems and deceit - can (and does) convince himself that his antics and exploits are significant. "Surely, the dramatic is special, meaningful, eternal, and memorable" - says the narcissist to himself - "Just like me. The excitement and drama generated must be truly unique, ground breaking, breathtaking, overwhelming, unprecedented, and, under no circumstances, routine.Īctually, the very act of dramatisation is intended to secure ego-syntony. The process of seeking excitement and drama cannot be deemed by the narcissist or by others to be humiliating, belittling or common. They must be commensurate with his view of his own uniqueness and entitlement. ![]() Needless to say that both the pursuit itself and its goals must conform to the grandiose vision that the narcissist has of his (False) Self. Unable to love and, in the long run (as a result), unloved, the narcissist is ever in the pursuit of excitement and drama intended to alleviate his all-pervasive boredom and melancholy. The narcissist is chronically depressed and anhedonic (finds no pleasure in life). It is as though two distinct personalities occupy the same body simultaneously. The behaviour of narcissists is very inconsistent. Watch the video on Pathological Narcissistic Space. ![]()
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